How important are repair attempts in a relationship?

In Dr. Gottman’s research, the consistent failure of repair attempts is a sure fire sign of an unhappy future. Therefore, it is absolutely critical that you master the art of making and receiving repair attempts in your relationship.

Mastering the art of repair in a relationship is like having a secret weapon to diffuse tension and cultivate understanding. It involves being able to recognize when things are starting to spiral negatively and intervening in a way that brings things back on track.

So what exactly is a repair attempt?

A repair attempt is a statement or action that prevents negativity from escalating out of control. Sometimes a repair attempt could be a playful "inside joke" timed well, other times it could be taking accountability for something you know you could have said better, "I'm sorry, that didn't come out the way I really wanted it too, let me try that again a bit slower?".

The beauty of repair attempts lies in their power to bridge the gap between partners, fostering mutual respect and connection. By honing this skill, you are equipping yourself with a valuable tool that can transform conflicts into opportunities for growth and intimacy.

 So, remember, the next time you feel things going off track between you and your partner, don't hesitate to make a repair attempt - it may just be the key to a happier, healthier relationship.