About Me....

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I'm Kylee. A relationship Coach & Counsellor. Mother. Nature Lover. Passionate about learning better ways of operating in the world.

I'm incredibly passionate about helping couples create stronger relationships with each other and their children. 
 
I met my sweetheart on the school bus when we were in our first year of high school. Fast forward 25 years, we now have 2 beautiful daughters and live in the beautiful Bay of Plenty in New Zealand.  Although people often commend us for having a relationship that has continued all these years and from such a young age, the truth is it hasn't always been easy and we have done a lot of work to get where we are today.  Like many couples, we have experienced highs and lows, and had to re create our relationship more than once!

 

In 2012 we fell pregnant with our first daughter.  No one told us what we were in for with this whole becoming parents gig! There were plenty of comments to warn us that life was going to change, but no one really told us what changes we should expect and how we could prepare for these changes.

When our first daughter was 3, we became part of the huge number of couples who separate or divorce after having children. Fortunately, our commitment to our family, and our love for each other (as well as us both having incredibly persistent natures!) meant we decided to do the work to get our family back together and our relationship back on track.

Over the course of a year, we both did a lot of learning together, attended courses and spent many hours getting to know each other all over again.  After the best part of a year we reunited, and in December of 2018 we welcomed our second daughter Rosie. 
 
During this time, alongside doing our own personal relationship work I decided to further my coaching education and train as a Relationship Coach, something I had always been interested in.

I educated myself through the Gottman Institute, as I knew they were at the cutting edge of research when it comes to relationships. I continue to further my education with them to this day. Their approach to relationships has been developed from over 40 years of research with more than 3,000 couples—the most extensive study ever done on marital stability. I also continue to engage in other professional development to enhance my knowledge and skills so that I can be of the greatest service to couples.

The personal challenges we experienced in our relationship after having our first daughter, is what kick-started my journey to help other couples. But realising just how many other couples were struggling through the early years of parenthood, is what made it clear to me I needed to focus my energy into helping new parents.
 
Becoming parents should be a time of joy, love, personal growth and more! However, the lack of support and education around becoming parents and maintaining your relationship means it often ends up looking very different to this. For over two thirds of new parents, they will experience a noticeable decline in relationship satisfaction within the first 3 years of their babie's life. 

Now when I hear people say “You really can’t prepare for having a baby”... I know this isn't true. 

The earlier your prepare your relationship for the changes baby brings, the stronger the connections and relationships will be between all family members and the easier it will be to navigate challenges and enjoy life together as a family. 

Contact me today to schedule a free 15 minute consultation or schedule our first appointment.